In a powerful testimony of resilience, a young Nigerian woman shares her journey from the brink of suicide to a life of purpose and hope, highlighting the critical need for mental health awareness.
Speaking at the Vanguard 3rd Mental Health Summit in Lagos, Aishat Abdulhakeem moved the audience with her raw and honest account of overcoming severe depression and academic pressure. Her story is a beacon of light for anyone feeling lost or overwhelmed.
The Descent into Darkness: Academic Pressure and Isolation
Aishat’s struggles began with the intense pressure to gain university admission, a common stressor for many Nigerian youths. After failing twice, she finally got in, but her challenges were far from over.
“While I finally got in, I was struggling with academics,” Aishat recalled. “At some point, I got disturbed and couldn’t sleep. My eyes were always teary.”
This emotional turmoil is a familiar experience for many students grappling with performance anxiety and the fear of failure. Instead of receiving understanding, Aishat was wrongly told she was "possessed by a jin," a harmful stigma that often surrounds mental health issues in many communities.
The Breaking Point and a Lifeline
Despite seeking help from a psychiatrist, Professor Taiwo Sheikh, Aishat’s mental state continued to decline. She described a harrowing moment when a voice in her head told her she was a failure and to "end it all."
“Luckily for me, it was somewhere people knew me,” she shared. “One lady saw me and came to me—she saved me that day.”
This critical intervention underscores a vital lesson: community awareness and a simple act of kindness can save a life.
The Turning Point: Family Support and Returning to Care
Back home, Aishat found the courage to confess everything to her mother, including her suicide attempt. Instead of judgment, her mother offered a lifeline: “The doctor you saw that time who made you feel better—it’s time to go back to him.”
Though shame initially kept her from returning, a chance encounter with Prof. Sheikh led her back to the clinic and onto the path of recovery with medication and consistent care.
A New Beginning: From Survivor to Graduate
Today, Aishat’s life is a testament to the power of perseverance and proper support.
“I’m now a graduate with better results, and I have found purpose,” she announced proudly. “I’m currently serving as a corps member under the NYSC.”
Her transformation from a struggling student to a fulfilled national youth service member is an inspiration to all.
Key Takeaways: Aishat’s Message of Hope
Aishat ended her talk with crucial advice for individuals, families, and the community:
- Access to Care Saves Lives: “I survived a suicide attempt because I had access to a mental health clinic and a listening ear from my mother.”
- Break the Stigma: “When one person knows about mental health, it leads to more people in our community getting the right awareness.”
- Advocate for Accessibility: “Let mental health facilities be accessible to every Nigerian in need.”
- Healing is Possible: “Healing starts with conversations. Suicide is real, but help leads to a better life.”
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts, please know that you are not alone. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Your life is precious.